Tuesday, December 30, 2008 . 2:00 AM
Recently, I've been reading a book called "I Kissed Dating Goodbye". It was a christmas gift given to me by my pastors.Most other books on dating will tell you how to make dating work. But this book, it actually tells you how to make your life pleasing to God, even if that means taking a break from dating.
The author of this book isn't convincing people to stop dating. He just wants to help people examine the aspects of life that dating touches - the way we treat others, the way we prepare for our future mate, our personal purity and look at what it means to bring these areas in line with God's Word.
As I flipped the page to chapter 1, I was so hooked to it till I always bring it out with me and read it on the train.
As I continue reading, I came across this chapter that indicates 'The seven habits of highly defective dating'
These seven habits are some of the "swerves" dating relationships often make. Perheps you can relate to one or two of them.
1. Dating tends to skip the friendship stage of a relationship.
2. Dating often mistakes a physical relationship for love.
3. Dating often isolates a couple from other vital relationships. - I so agree with this statement. I started thinking, how many people end dating relationships only to find their ties to other friends severed? hmmm.....
4. Dating can distract young adults from their primary responsibility of preparing for the future.
5. Dating can cause discontentment with God's gift of singleness.
6. Dating can create an artificial environment for evaluating another person's character.
7. Dating often becomes an end in itself.
I have friends telling me to stop reading this book for fear that it might influence my mind about dating.
Come to think of it, this book isn't that bad. It actually speaks to me alot about my life.
Being single is not that bad. Look at it this way, if I view singleness as a gift from God, I can learn to be content with friendships during the time God wants me to remain single. With this, I can also clear my life of the clutter that short-term relationships contribute. I can even pursue more effective ministry and deeper friendship with people of both genders.
As a single, I can even have all the freedom I want. I can have the freedom right now to explore, study and tackle the world.
I know, I know my friends can't wait for me to have a boyfriend.
But wells, is not about me finding a boyfriend. It's about me finding the right and perfect one. :)
Don't worry E, my mind won't be corrupted. Hehe!
Time flies! 2008 is coming to an end in just a day!
Is like the moment I closed my eyes, "bling" 2009 is here already! Everything happened in just a split second. sofast, sofast, SO SO FAST!
I remembered during GEL meet last saturday, Kenneth asked us two questions.
1) What was that one thing in 2008 that left a big impact in your life?
2) What was that one thing you messed up in 2008?
I started pondering about these two questions.
2008 has been a year full of ups and downs!
But, whatever bad times or down times we are facing, life must still go on! This whole chapter of 2008 is coming to an end in just a day!!!
Will 2009 be a better year? I sincerely hope so.
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Christmas this year was spent with the poly classmates.
Wee and Shawn couldn't make it because Wee hurt his butt during one of his trainings in OCS. Poor boy, I hope his butt is recovering.
Shawn as usual, busy dating. He's never free!
And so the rest of us had Waraku at Marina Square. (We will always make it a point to have Christmas dinner few days before or after Christmas)
This year, we did something different. We had gift exchange.
And we added a rule to it. NO FOODS/CHOCOLATES ARE ALLOWED!
I bet the guys had a hard time cracking their heads on what to get other than chocolates. hah!
It was a lovely Christmas night. Great food, great company! :)
Boxing day was spent with cher and her darling in town. A super random meet-up!
E came and off we went to phuture.
Initial plan was to collect my new card and then stay for awhile and then head off to somewhere else. But then, we bumped into Serena and Eileen and we got the both of them to join us.
Bugis with goodfriend the next day. We sat down at STARBUCKS to eat NASI LEMAK. I bet there were people starring at us.
While we were on the train to Tampines, she said she wanted to hear the song "Shout to the Lord" because she's feeling excited about church! And so, we started singing Christian songs on the train and we were totally oblivious to the people around us. I think they must be wondering what are we girls up to.
And I bumped into my cliques back in EI0510/NYP days.
Brought goodfriend to church.
No, to be exact, she was the one who wanted to go to church. I have to thank her because I had no intention to go church since most of the senior youths are not in SG and I'm very very glad she went.
Goodfriend, I don't mind bringing you to church every saturday!
After church, we went over to City Hall and we had the very delicious chicken rice for dinner!
Went over to STARBUCKS (AGAIN). I think I'll soon be influenced by her.
While waiting for Jenny, we sat down at the sofa, listening to our IPODS, reading our own storybooks. For a moment, I wasn't complaining about how late Jenny was. Infact, while waiting for her, I felt super relaxed. Shall we do this more often goodfriend?
Timbre after that.
Goodfellas was playing that night. And Sarah from 58A sang Lucky with them.
Oh, and I love Sarah's voice. Her vocals are superb!
Heading to Gab's condo later for a swim with that bimbo cousin of mine.
I hope I'll be able to wake up!
g-ladies spoke
